Embracing Motherhood Later in Life: The Joys and Challenges of Having a Baby After 35
Welcoming a baby into the world is a life-changing experience at any age, but having a baby later in life—whether it’s your first or you’re adding to your family—comes with a unique set of joys and challenges. For many women in their late 30s and 40s, the journey to motherhood can feel different from what they imagined in their younger years. There’s wisdom, stability, and an overwhelming sense of gratitude, but also the realities of increased risks, a shifting social landscape, and the need for extra self-care.
If you’re on this path, know that you’re not alone. More and more women are choosing to have children later in life, and with the right support, knowledge, and mindset, it can be an incredibly fulfilling experience.
Photo by Erin Wilwert Photography.
The Joys of Having a Baby Later in Life
1. You’re More Emotionally Ready
By your late 30s or 40s, you’ve likely done a lot of growing—personally and professionally. You may have established a fulfilling career, traveled, or pursued passions that were important to you. With those experiences under your belt, you’re stepping into motherhood with a strong sense of self and a deeper appreciation for the journey ahead.
Many women find they are more patient and intentional in their parenting approach. You understand the fleeting nature of time and may be more present in the small, beautiful moments of raising a child.
2. Financial Stability and Security
While no one ever truly feels financially ready for a baby, having a child later in life often means you have a stronger financial foundation. You may have a stable career, a home, and savings to provide for your child in a way that might have been more challenging in your 20s.
This can translate into less stress over finances, more flexibility in choosing childcare options, and even the ability to invest in experiences—like family vacations or quality early education—that align with your parenting goals.
3. A Stronger Support System
By this stage in life, your friendships and relationships have had time to grow and solidify. You likely have a strong village—whether it’s close friends, siblings, or a partner—who are ready to support you.
Additionally, if you’re having a second or third child later in life, your older children may be more independent, allowing you to fully soak in the newborn stage without the constant hustle of toddlers running around.
4. A Deeper Appreciation for Motherhood
Many women who have babies later in life have faced challenges—whether that’s infertility, loss, or simply waiting for the right timing. This can make the experience of pregnancy and early motherhood all the more precious.
You may find yourself cherishing the milestones, soaking in every little coo, giggle, and snuggle, and embracing the process with a heart full of gratitude.
The Challenges of Having a Baby Later in Life
While there are undeniable joys, it’s important to acknowledge that having a baby later in life does come with its challenges.
1. Higher Health Risks
Pregnancy after 35 is considered "advanced maternal age" (a term that sounds far scarier than it actually is!). While it’s absolutely possible to have a healthy pregnancy, there are increased risks, including:
Gestational diabetes
High blood pressure
Higher chances of c-section deliveries
Increased risk of chromosomal abnormalities
The good news? Modern medicine has come a long way, and with proper prenatal care, many of these risks can be managed. Staying active, eating well, and following your doctor’s recommendations can help you maintain a healthy pregnancy.
2. Energy Levels May Not Be What They Once Were
Let’s be honest—chasing a toddler in your 40s feels different than it would have in your 20s. The sleepless nights, the endless rocking, the sheer physical demands of caring for a newborn can feel more exhausting.
Self-care is more important than ever. Prioritizing rest, asking for help, and making time to recharge will be key in keeping up with your little one.
3. Feeling Out of Sync With Other Moms
If you’re an older first-time mom, you may notice that many of the moms in playgroups or at preschool pickup are younger. It can sometimes feel isolating, like you’re in a different life stage than those around you.
The flip side? Many older moms form deep, meaningful friendships with younger moms, realizing that motherhood connects women regardless of age. Seeking out groups for moms of all ages can help build your support network.
4. Balancing Career and Motherhood
For many women, having a baby later in life means stepping away from a well-established career—at least temporarily. If you’ve spent years building your professional identity, it can be difficult to navigate maternity leave, career pauses, or the transition to part-time or remote work.
The key is finding balance. Whether that means setting boundaries, delegating tasks, or even exploring new career paths that offer more flexibility, embracing motherhood doesn’t have to mean sacrificing your professional ambitions.
Image by Erin Wilwert Photography
Capturing the Magic of Motherhood with Photography
Whether you’re expecting your first baby or welcoming a new little one into a family with older siblings, documenting this stage is something you’ll never regret. Maternity and newborn photography are not just about pictures—they’re about preserving a chapter of your life that passes so quickly.
At Erin Wilwert Photography, I specialize in capturing the beauty and emotion of motherhood—especially for moms who know just how precious this journey is. From stunning maternity portraits that celebrate your changing body to cozy, heartfelt newborn sessions that freeze those tiny details in time, I’m here to help you tell your family’s story.
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Final Thoughts: Embracing This Chapter
Having a baby later in life is an adventure filled with both challenges and deep, heartwarming joys. Yes, there may be days when exhaustion takes over or when you feel like you’re navigating a different parenting journey than those around you. But there will also be moments of immeasurable gratitude, unbreakable bonds, and the realization that you were always meant to be here—right now, in this moment, with this child.
So, if you’re expecting a baby in your late 30s or 40s, embrace it. Love every second. Take the pictures, savor the milestones, and celebrate the incredible path you’re on.
And when you’re ready to document this unforgettable season, I’d love to help.
